We would be missing out on something if we did not prepare a do’s and don’ts list for you! 

Here you go:

Do's:

• be committed to this new relationship
• be an active listener! Guide and help her put her ideas into action
• find constructive ways to challenge your mentee
• share similar experiences so your mentee understands that her problem is not unique
• use open questions to encourage the mentee to think creatively and form her own conclusions
• let mentees know that there are no shortcuts
• this is a valuable time for the mentees. Please focus on their business, as you are the expert in that field
• respect your mentee, her values & beliefs
• get her focus on the things that need to be done
• encourage her by pointing out her skills
• be consistent, but flexible. Expect changes in plans
• always do follow-ups
• foster a caring and supportive relationship. Showing that you care will boost confidence
• it is a common remark that mentors learn from mentees a great deal
• focus on developing the mentee professionally and personally
• support and facilitate. You do not have all the answers; you are a ‘learning facilitator’
• explain your personal work style and preferences
• remind your mentee to prepare a written outline or an agenda for the meeting
• after the meeting take notes of what was discussed and progress made

Don'ts:

• expect your mentee to lead every meeting or suggest activity
• make your mentee learn by trial
• give random advice or criticism
• expect a clone of yourself
• talk negatively about your mentee to others
• lecture
• share personal problems unless it is related to the current disposition
• lend money
• assume the role of the problem solver
• impose your vision
• attempt to force your mentee in one direction
• forget she knows her business better than anyone else